How to Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is often seen as a “his problem.” However, ED impacts both partners in a relationship. Even more uncomfortable than the eating disorder itself is the nonverbal tension that many couples experience when they conceal their feelings about being in a relationship. Your support can be helpful if your partner is suffering from erectile dysfunction. ED is not about finding “the solution” – it is about establishing a sense of trust, understanding and a safe environment to communicate openly around the topic.

First, Come From Care, Rather Than Blame

The first and most important thing to keep in mind is that ED does not pertain to attraction, masculinity, or love. ED is related to a person’s health, extensive levels of stress, or other lifestyle factors. No one will be at ease in expressing themselves should you use blame or ridicule. You should prefer to approach the situation with an easy hand, and reassurance that you care about your partner and that you want to figure things out together.

Discuss It Aloud

Being silent in a relationship can be very disruptive, particularly if intimacy is lost. Sharing your thoughts and feelings to your partner can help them feel less ashamed and remind them that this is a problem that impacts the couple as a whole, not just them.

Work out Solutions together

Erectile dysfunction does not necessarily mean that sexual intimacy needs to stop. There are lots of things you can do in a variety of ways, emotionally and physically, that do not require penetration through affection, cuddling, and spending more time in proximity. There is also the practical side of the equation to incorporate—encouraging your partner to see their doctor, address lifestyle modifications that may affect their ED, or talk to their doctor about treatment options will also help. You can really show your support by offering to attend the doctor’s appointment with your partner.

Managing Stress Together

Erectile dysfunction typically brings with it emotional baggage also – most often in the form of stress, guilt or frustration. My recommendation: set aside a time to engage in stress relieving activities together (exercise, share some healthy cooking, mindfulness, etc). When your partner feels supported, it is harder for them to fall into an anxiety cycle that worsens their ED.

Why is Your Support Important?

ED can trigger poor confidence for a man, and having an encouraging partner can reduce barriers and allow the recovery process to progress more smoothly. Your support reminds them that intimacy is demonstrated in multiple ways and that intimacy should not only be framed or driven by penetration; intimacy is about connecting, trust, and care.

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